I know, boundaries are a thing. For us all.

What the heck is a boundary? The google AI says: “a line that marks the limits of an area; a dividing line.”

Ok. so what does that mean when we are in relationship with other humans?

All sorts of boundaries are important. Mental, emotional, physical, sexual, spiritual, energetic etc.

But here’s the thing – all boundaries are VERY energetic. When we change, when we get really clear on our energetic boundaries *poof* the world responds!

It feels sort of magic when it happens. You might have a person in your life that challenges you, and you could say you might have ‘boundary issues’ with them. Maybe its hard to say no, or even when you do they seem to continue to push you. Or perhaps you feel drained after spending time with them – that is very often a boundary concern…

When you are able to sink into some deep important somatic work around your boundaries you might see this relationship change.

Here’s the thing – it might change without you setting a verbal or physical boundary.

It’s very cool when it happens because it feels effortless, (although it was likely preceded by some ‘effort’ of healing and tending to your body).

Have you experienced this before?

It’s one of the reasons that we get to that middle place in relationships – we work on healing ourselves and then we might see a ‘loss’ of relationships – people falling away. Typically those are the ones that weren’t serving your highest and greatest good anyhow. This is not to demean how challenging this stage can be. Very isolating if you haven’t yet pulled in your tribe!

This is important work – understanding our energetic boundaries. This stuff has been programmed based on what we experienced our entire lives (but mostly what happened in childhood). We learn to assert boundaries or not, to ensure our survival based on our relationships with caregivers and other important relationships in life.

There are lots of trauma types, personality characteristics and situations that can mess with your felt sense of boundaries – abuse of all types, physical trauma, complex PTSD (otherwise known as relational trauma), your personality, and just your level of sensitivity.

We get to learn this and then decide how we might want to change that to serve our life now. That is the beautiful thing, stuff happens in life and we get to choose how we move forward beginning today. Although this can sometimes be hard to achieve, especially if we don’t even know that we are struggling with something like boundaries.

Here are just a few signs you might benefit from investigating boundaries:

• Do you feel drained after spending time with certain people or in certain places?
• Do you feel exhausted after going out or being around too many people?
• Do you have a hard time not taking on other peoples emotions or moods?
• Do you feel unheard!?
• Do people often not listen to your attempts to set boundaries?

If any of these apply to you – you’d greatly benefit from doing some energetic/ somatic work with your boundaries.

I love to work somatically with boundaries – this is the work that sticks. We ask the body what it feels when we are with certain people, in certain places & hear the wisdom we might not have heard from the body before. (Because we probably weren’t listening!) Once we understand how we are energetically & in all these particular situations, we can start to tend to our safety and our bodies needs and that is when we see real transformation.

I do have this little practice that is a great place to start when we want to dive in energetic boundary work – check it out:

If you are curious to know more and want to learn to somatically and energetically get clear on your boundaries – consider a 1:1 session with me OR check out my empowered program.

Let me know what your experience is with boundaries! I’d love to know

Meaghan